Christine is right on the money.
I have seen failures directly related to 1, 3, and 4.
Rolling is critical. Just stay in from the weld a bit and back from the inside face of the tubesheet also.
Grooves are a waste of time and effort.
A slightly roughened hole is better.
There are many applications where seal welds are used very successfully.
I have seen very few applications where strength welds were actually needed.
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