The best way to transfer data from Femap to Patran is the Nastran bulk data file. You should use Export/Analysis model. This will write a .bdf file and include all of the FEM data but will not include any geometry/groups or other data. File extensions .bdf and .dat are the same Nastran bulk data format. So in Patran you would choose to import a nastran bulk data file.
This is from the Femap documentation:
8.8 Patran Interfaces
There are three direct interfaces between FEMAP and MSC.Patran. You can write a FEMAP model to the MSC.Patran format for analysis, read an existing MSC.Patran model, or read analysis results for post-processing. The model interfaces use the MSC.Patran neutral file format. As you can see from the table in "Analysis Software Interfaces", they only support the finite element entities in FEMAP. You cannot transfer geometry (points, curves, surfaces, or volumes) between FEMAP and MSC.Patran using these interfaces.
Joe