Urbanresource,
The first aspects to consider are the governing agency requirements (allowable methods of calculation, allowable formulas and assumptions made) and the size of the property or should I say watershed in question. For small watersheds, the rational method will suffice. In reading your description, I get the feeling that we are not talking about a large watershed.
With this assumption in mind, you will need to verify which storms are to be analyzed for detention purposes as required by the city. On a recent project where I had to do the exact same exercise you are working on, the city asked me to look at the 5, 10, 25 and 100 yr storms. Once you know which storms are to be analyzed you will need produce synthetic hydrographs for each storm.
Each hydrograph will have the pre and post development flows plotted on the same graph with 37.5% of the volume contained in the rising limb and 62.5% of the volume in the declining limb of this hydrograph. The differential area between the two graphed flows is the volume which you will need to retain. In my case, the agency asked me to draw an additional horizontal line on the graph which represented 90% of the peak post developemnt flow. Then it was the differential area between the pre development flow curve and this horizontal line which will be the volume to detain.
Once you obtain this value or values if you are required to look at more than one storm, then you will size your metering structure depending on said values. As Ryb01 mentions, this will be in the form of a custom structure containing orifices and/or weirs.
You can obtain your time of concentration, and peak flows and plot these values on CAD to quickly obtain the differential areas (your volume), just be careful with units.
The entire process which I just described is all done by hand calcualtions (Except for use of CAD). Hopefully this helps and my explanation is not too confusing. By the way, I wish I had seen your post sooner, I have been out of work sick for more almost a week but I am back now. Good luck.