""Bit of a bummer when your design works somewhere between 99.99 and 99.999% of the time""
It's probably a bit higher ratio than that considering only 20 or so fatal accidents.
I think that's part of why it took them so long to come up with a fix, trying to duplicate or surmise the problem.
DBW is better than cable from a manufacturing standpoint due to the fact it eliminates air bypass systems. Most cable throttle EFI cars have at least one, some have 2. One for loads, one for cold start. The DBW throttle body handles both the normal throttle function and load/cold-start air flow adjustments to maintain steady idle.
The automatics with optional "manual" paddle shifters have a more complex gated console shifter, if it's in the paddle mode you have to move it over and up to get to neutral. Maybe this should be re-thought to go back to the one movement to neutral.
Still think shifting to neutral is the best thing to do, it's easier to locate and slam the shifter up, most won't go to reverse without the release button. Easier than finding and turning the key and you don't lose your power steering/brakes. It should be part of every defensive driving course. Everyone that drives a DBW vehicle should practice in a parking lot.
You don't have to worry about hurting the engine, all DBW cars are rev limited and most are rev limited to 4,000rpm when the shifter is in neutral.
Maybe a kill switch system if you're going to use the complex remote keys, sort of like a dirt bike, only one easy access fool proof switch, all it does is kill the engine. But then you have to train drivers to drive without PS, PB.