louisa,
Are you interested in average stress and strain tensor for computing effective properties maybe?
You do not need to extrapolate the stress and strain at nodes. Use the suitable Gauss quadrature rule for the element type you are using to integrate each stress and strain component over each element in the domain.
then the average over entire model is:
<Sij(whole_model)> = (1/Volume)*Sum(I(Sij(elem_i)), i=1...Nelem
where I(Sij(elem_i)) means the integral of Sij over element i, i=1..Nelem
Personally, I could not find a direct way so I had to write my own code.