straightline101,
It is possible there is some confusion between different issues. The paragraphs you quoted are about how to place the datum feature symbol. It essentially says that you need to use the datum feature symbol to identify physical features as the part features that will be involved in simulation of datums, by placing the symbol on part feature outlines or size dimensions that define physical features of size.
On the other hand, datums (not datum features), are derived from either physical fixturing devices or a virtual simulation in the CMM software, and they are always theoretical - points, axes, planes, or combinations of such. These eventually lead to a reference system of 3 orthogonal planes, also theoretical. You didn't tell us all the details, but it's possible that the "manufacturing folks" know what they are talking about.
As for the concern raised by drawoh, about the effect of the parallelism variation, it is basically (sorry for the pun) eliminated by datum simulation rules, that require the relationship between datum simulators to be independent of variations in the actual geometries of the datum features and their mutual as produced orientation/location.