Toad -
I always ignore that "rigid offset" for moment frames. It doesn't significantly end up increasing the moment in the columns.
IMO, the biggest argument for using those offsets relates to reducing the drift of the frame. But, in seismic you should not normally use it because (for steel frames) you are probably also ignoring panel zone shear deformation. According to NEHRP commentary, if you ignore the rigid region, then you can also ignore panel zone deformation.
For shear connections, it's a more interesting question. I usually feel perfectly comfortable ignoring the effect for interior frames. For exterior columns, it's not such an easy call... though I still usually end up ignoring it. I just might take a closer look at my column size, my connection eccentricity, my total shear and my column footing support.
If I do want to consider it then I just put in a rigid end offset like you suggested. Odd that rigid end offsets were originally intended for moment frames, but current structural practice makes using them for shear connections more common.