I have a problem with the rational for weldability. First of all, in the Q&T condition, the crystal structure is BCC, same as with normalized. The only difference is the size and distribution of the carbides. Yes, martensite has a BCT structure, but on tempering, it forms ferrite and carbide. This occurs, literally, within seconds at temperatures above 500 F.
Second, welding on 4340 (or 4140, for that matter) is not "fairly trouble free" unless you consider preheating the pintle to 500 F and post-heating at 1000 F can be accomplished without any trouble.
It isn't the hardness or crystal structure that causes the welding problems, but the chemistry of the base material. The heat affected zone of the pintle will be reaustenitized during welding and when it cools, it will form a hard and brittle martensite. This will crack on cooling if the material does not have enough preheat to slow the cooling rate. Furthermore, if it isn't tempered with a post-heat, it will likely be too hard and brittle for service, so even if it doesn't crack on cooling, it is likely to crack in service.
IMO, you should use Q&T material at the hardness you need and use proper welding techinques. But, since that doesn't seem like an option, your second best is use normalized material as you have been told and when then that part fails, consult with a welding engineer for proper welding procedures. No need worrying about the hardness since the problem is going to be with the welding.
rp