Hi 144x, 4-pole breakers are not at all dangerous and really better than 3 poles if we really need to isolate the total system(in most of the case we don't).Jbartos is correct. You can use a 4-pole breaker. But usually it is not the case as 4 pole breakers are bulky, bigger and expensive as jbartos said. If you need a complete isolation of any cable/busbar etc, use a 4-pole breaker. They are used for separately derived systems like gensets in order to isolate from the utility supplies as an example.
TN, TN-S, TN-C, TN-C-S terminologies are used by european electrical codes to describe different systems of earthing(grounding in North America). Giuseppe is partially correct. But in TN-C-S(Combined Separate) system the neutral is separated from the earth only at the service entrance panel and downstream of the distribution. If you are from european region we can discuss about it in more details.
By your wordings I guess you are in the North American region.In short you do not have to worry about using a 3-pole breaker at all. But if you wish you can use 4-pole as well.