Hi JonGD,
Acetal (Dupont Delrin) seems to be a good choice for your application. I am curious about the orfice, if it is molded with the part? If more sealing pressure is created by increasing interference, there may be a point where the orfice configuration is adversely affected over time. If more sealing pressure is needed, then the plastic part could be redesigned with a two step diameter pin in the molding process. The large diameter could be in the shank and the controlling small diameter could be in the mushroom head of the part that is practically stress free. If current part works fine as is, I would venture an opinion that your part dimensions are about right. Are you reaming or burnishing the hole in the aluminum, or is it die cast?