I can't speak to "tightness parameter", I just know how gasket leakage is analyzed for Powertrain analysis. In that situation, a "leak" is defined as a path of zero-pressure which exists across the cross-section of the gasket.
Nowhere in that definition (which is what is used for automotive powertrain) is the implication of infinite gasket stress; rather the implication is non-zero gasket stress.
If you don't agree with my assessment; please clarify your statement. I know that this is the way that it is done, but I am not completely attuned to some of your terms. For that reason, I may be misinterpreting what you are stating.
Regards,
Brad