In my organization, we have a policy not to specify field bending for bars greater than #5. Often to bend a bar, a contractor has to put a piece of pipe on the end and pull on that. If the inspector doesn't know much about structural work, some contractors will try and heat them with a torch. At that point they are only about as good as 40 ksi material, maybe not that good.
I have been thinking about this problem before. Remember two things. First, for a bar to hold its shape, it has to be bent well past the yield point, otherwise it will just snap back into shape. Second, as it turns out, the bars are bent well past 10x the yield strain. Therefore, it is difficult to say "don't bend them too much," because I can't find someone who will define clearly what too much is. Just as an exercise, I recommend you get out a piece of paper and compute the strain in a typical bar bent into a standard hook. Compare that to the yield strain. It will open your eyes. It should also give you comfort that plastic bending can really occur for a long time before fracture. Good Luck & Merry Christmas.