You're doing the right thing to create an internal standard. Y14.5 can be used correctly by different designers for the same design in different ways. Just like in Solidworks, where you can build part models using different approaches and end up with the same shape. I think that it would be difficult, however, to apply another company's standards to your situation, since ideally Y14.5 should be applied to specify design intent, and your purposes for parts that look very much like another company's parts may be different. I'd suggest you start with simple design situations that you encounter often, and have your designers collaborate on finding a best approach to tolerancing those parts, and continue from there. Sorry but I don't think this is a situation for a cut and paste solution.