nevermind. got it...just didn't search enough places...
I usually go to the SW help first, then here, then to comp.cad.solidworks (via google) then to the SW forum.
If you select the note close to the arrow tip, it selects just that leader, not the whole note.
Now how hard would it be to add that to the SW help file? It clearly 'splains how to add multiples, but not delete them...hmmm...