John is right, this would be better answered in the nastran forum.
That said, stresses at the connections to a spider element are never accurate. Are you including any compliance in the form of a spring element between your spider elements or are you simply tying your two bolted layers together hard with an RBE? If you're doing the latter you'll always get huge stress concentrations (at least with RBE2s) because you're adding an enormous amount of stiffness (infinite) between those two parts of the joint.
Typically if you need to model a bolt as an RBE spider + a spring (CBUSH) connection, you'd ignore stresses in the elements directly connected to the CBUSH (at least for gross acreage stress/strain checks) and calculate your margins at each bolt location by hand based on the forces being transmitted through the CBUSH, checking against fastener strengths (tensile/shear) and parent material/joint allowables (bearing, fastener head pull through, etc).
When you setup your glued connection, what elements are you glueing?
Cheers,
Nathan