If you are really speaking of control relays, and not motor control contactors, then there really is no difference at all in the capacity ratings. The only theoretical difference is that typically IEC relays have fixed contact sets, to which you can add more contact block assemblies to, but you cannot change the normal status of any individual contact. Many NEMA designs have contacts that are changeable, meaning that you can remove one, flip it over, and a NO contact becomes a NC contact, and each one is individually changeable. This however is not specifically in NEMA design standards, just in practice with major manufacturers. If you are using NEMA relays with fixed contacts, they are in fact no different than IEC relays.
Motor control contactors are an entirely different situation.
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