0. Look at arch drawings, make sure I have bearing lines and that it looks like I have enough SW. I can normally go ahead and markup for first round drafting before I start design unless the architect is clueless.
1. Design criteria: Look wind and seismic criteria online, spreadsheet for gravity loads (roof, floor, etc). Spreadsheet for wind pressure and seismic coeff.
2. I normally size the main gravity framing to ensure I have enough depth then move on to lateral.
3. Lateral: I markup a roof plan with my various diaphragms, then use a spreadsheet to design sheathing and chords. My diaphragm spreadsheet has a lateral load summary table to add all the diaphragm forces to each wall line. Shearwall spreadsheet for each wall line designs SW, HD and collectors for all segments. For multi-story I have a spreadsheet that can track the uplift between stories. If I need to do FTAO I use the APA spreadsheet. Most other lateral I design by hand.
4. Gravity framing Enercalc for roof, posts and studs. Spreadsheet for continuous and gravity spread footings. If I have a highly loaded footing I may run it in Enercalc.
Most of the wood buildings I do are commercial buildings or industrial. Occasionally I've done multi-story, multi-family apartment buildings. I've used Woodworks. It works well for unusual designs. For fairly typical buildings I can design faster with spreadsheets and hand calcs.