I've examined similar situations to yours before, and I can confidently say that an elastic-plastic analysis would solve your issues.
Let's say, for example, the combination of stresses due to internal pressure and the effects of the refractory cause stresses in excess of yield in the vessel wall. However, with a small amount of plastic deformation in the vessel wall, the refractory loads decrease significantly. Then, you could have sufficient margin against burst. Maybe even enough to pass an elastic-plastic analysis.
For the vessel wall itself, a 2-D axisymmetric analysis should be sufficient - probably a day or so worth of work.
I would also seriously investigate the crushing strength of the refractory. It may crumble well before it over-stresses your vessel wall. Or, you may find that it would be better to specify a very flexible insulation material (a kaowool or similar) between the refractory and the vessel wall, which will be squished by the differential thermal expansion, but not transit the load to the vessel wall...