I am curious to see what others do for this is well. The semi rigid approach can help significantly with modeling and I'd like to start using it more.
In the past I have created a sample model where I created a simple diaphragm, loaded it up, then calibrate the plate material and section properties so that the deflection matches the NDS equations. The thought being that for similar magnitude of loads and aspect ratios its rational to use these 'calibrated' properties.
Last time I tried it I was struggling with the chord deflection component, I believe I tried modeling the chords but ended up giving up on that.
Next time I do it, I think I will do kind of a sensitivity analysis on the different components in the NDS equation. Perhaps for the purposes of lateral load distribution, some of the terms are less impactful. It would be nice to be able to just use the plate elements without having to model chords and still get a good result from the 3d finite element analysis.
I think there is probably a valid approach just modeling the inplane shear stiffness G' or Geff as it relates to the material thickness and elastic modulus as well but I haven't given much rigor to checking this out.