What's the mechanism that explains this?
That's going to vary a bit from system to system. Feel free to keep firing off questions until you're satisfied though.
Are we saying that once the concrete cures, the slab is so rigid that any connection of the decking to steel is negligible?
In this situation, I feel that the quality of the connections is near irrelevant. Rather, it's the stiffness of the rest of the load path down to the foundations. Where that path is overturning shear walls... pretty stiff. Where it's overturning wall piers... less stiff. Combine that with the expectation that the slab will be wildly stiff in plan, one would expect most of the load to wind up at the shear walls.
In other words, decking connections are mostly for construction in this scenario?
Yeah. The connections are there to perform a bunch of jobs such as:
1) uplift maybe.
2) bracing the beam top flanges against LTB.
3) Worker safety prior to slab curing.
4) Probably some other stuff...
This was my design initial design assumption, but the more I thought, the more I confused myself.
That's altogether healthy. The best place to be technically is:
1) Have obsessed over every ridiculous thing ad nauseum AND;
2) Recognize where simplifications are justified / routinely made.
Not having #1 makes you a dumb ass.
Not having #2 make it impossible to do the work.
It's the folks that don't question things that we worry about.