To answer your first question, per code the width is given in Table 2-5.2.
The RTJ version of these gaskets has a compression stop, so is not too dissimilar to using an RTJ gasket. You still have a metal faced sealing element, so I would be inclined to use the same properties as that for a standard RTJ gasket, unless suitable data can be provided otherwise. Do you trust these gaskets if the manufacturer can't provide you with basic data about their products?
So is it an o-ring style groove or an RTJ groove? If an o-ring style groove you will have metal to metal contact so should be designing to Appendix Y or similar. There is disadvantage to using Appendix 2 for o-ring grooves. However, you have stated there is a gap between flanges, so not an o-ring style groove?
What is wrong with using a more conventional style gasket? The API Type 6BX has already been suggested. You would still have to design the flange (unless a code break could be included), but at least you know the pressure energised ring gaskets have been proven to seal at high pressures.
Do you have a drawing of what has worked in the past?