@milkshakelake: my volley.
But I give people the benefit of the doubt and treat them like a random human. Colorblind, genderblind, and all that. It removes a lot of assumptions and accusations. Tangentially, I also give people benefit of doubt when they don't know something seemingly trivial, because I have no idea what their life is like.
So what I'm hearing is that your are in favor of enforcing no standards / social norms here whatsoever. No minimum standards of behavior. No minimum standard of competency. No minimum expectation of reasonable
growth in competency. You know, because you never know what someone else is going through, right?
I disagree. I feel that any garden worth having will ultimately wind up requiring some proactive weeding occasionally. Consider:
A) ENGISSOL. Remember that guy? The software peddler that was using our forum as a shameless advertising platform in exchange for trivial contributions? Should we have let him stay because.... what? Maybe he was having bad day/quarter? Not only would we have had to continue to put up with his abuse and exploitation of us, it would have created a horrendous precedent for the many other representatives of software companies that participate here. It would have been the path to an uglier garden.
B) R13 / ret13. You know, that dude that would contribute fifty responses to any thread, regardless of whether it was within his wheelhouse or not? Should we ask him to comeback because... what? Because was clearly a well intentioned retiree who enjoyed hanging out with us (he was)? I actually feel awful about R13's excommunication to this day. I wish that could have been resolved by way of training rather than banishment. I was one of many folks who contributed to this decision but, for me, it came down to this: I strongly suspect that the reason that JAE was absent from our lives for a spell was because of his frustrations with R13 and management not taking any action to correct the situation. And,
for me, nothing uglies up this beautiful garden faster than my most significant digi-mentor being driven out of it.
Like I said, this is a probability thing for me.
If the only problem that I saw here was a handle that looked like catfishing, anti-feminism, and gonzo poor judgment, I would probably leave it alone. If phamENG decided to change his handle to PrettierGURL, for example, I would abstain from criticizing that decision because, obviously, one would have to be insane to doubt pham's intentions given the scale of his contributions here.
But the handle is
not the only problem that I see here. In addition:
1) In three years, Pretty Girl has not made a single contribution to any thread other than his own. Not one:
Link. Yes ,yes, perhaps Pretty Girls is just so incompetent and shy that he lacked the confidence to try and assist anyone else. Regardless, to date Pretty Girl's relation ship with this community is one sided and parasitic in nature. All take, no give.
2) I feel that Pretty Girl has established a pretty clear pattern of exploiting the good will of the folks on this forum as a substitute for investing the time required to rectify his technical deficiencies. Rather than helping Pretty Girl to improve, I get the sense that we are serving as a crutch to allow him to continue to
not improve. At this point, we are enabling his incompetence.
Again, I would not normally bother myself with raising a fuss over #1 and #2 in isolation. There are plenty of members here that do the very same thing.
My willingness to call Pretty Girl out on this stems from the
combination of his parasitic relationship with this forum with a handle that strongly suggests catfishing.
@milkshakelake: given the combination of a catfish-suggestive handle and #1 and #2, what would you say the likelihood is that I have indeed misread the situation here and Pretty Girl is really a transwoman employing an escape hatch?
Seriously, give me a percentage. As an engineer, you know full well that no meaningful decision is made in an environment of perfect certainty.
And at what percentage would you condone action here? Or is there no such percentage?