It mostly depends on your requirements. The 12V relay is good information, we can assume a mx spike voltage. Is the 200 mA what the relay will drive? That is not relevent except to guess at the drive requirement. Is the catch diode part of the relay itself or will be providing that in your circuit? What packaging, surface mount? What temp. range? What are you driving this from? Is it a typical ground connection or do you need to high side drive the relay coil?
A generic answer would be something like the venerable 2N2222. Since you want to buy from NTE, that would be a good place to start. If you are just building one, a catalouge shop cross reference should be OK. The IRF type FET's with logic drive might be easier for you and not cost much more, it depends on your sensitivity of NRE to production part costs.