roker,
I'm wondering what you mean by "a DP of sometims hundreds of bars is acomplished on a 'disk' of a few milimiters."
The disk of a PSV sits on top of the full nozzle and has the spring force pushing it down so it opens at the "set pressure". Most disks have a diameter larger than the nozzle diameter and, possibly a lip at the outside diameter making what is called a "huddling chamber". Once open, the pressure and flow of the fluid act on this larger area to fully open the PSV. This is what "pops" the valve open and keeps it open until the pressure is somewhat less than set pressure.
But, I don't believe the thickness or diameter of the disk comes into play with determining the pressure drop. Yes, it has to be thick enough to have the mechanical strength it needs. The majority of the pressure drop comes from the fluid no longer being confined and expanding.
Good luck,
Latexman