Thanks skogsgurra, at least one of you bothered to read what I wrote.
dseaver: no, the Digikey part you listed is not a suitable relay. Have a look in the links below for something easy to interface to your circuit.
GeekEE: you're right, it's not an SSR. I didn't say it was one. It seems pretty obvious that it's a conventional mechanical relay.
The circuit in the OP's second link has a driver circuit driving 8 LEDs. If the circuit can drive an LED then it can drive a solid state relay because almost all SSR's use an LED input to an opto-coupler. It really is as simple as substituting the SSR input in place of the LED and current limiting resistor. If deseaver chooses an SSR from one of the many manufacturers of SSRs such as...
Crydom
or
Grayhill
...then they won't have to worry about using something like a ULN200x series driver to drive the relay from logic. The 'x' is a wildcard before anyone tells me that they can't find a ULN200x at Digikey.
If it is a specific product you're after, Grayhill's 70-OAC5-L looks a good bet assuming this isn't a big valve. There are so many options from Crydom that I am not even trying to list them. Look for one that has a DC input range which goes down to 3V or so and has an AC output. When you think you have found a suitable one I'm sure one of us will check for you.
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