ringman,
You have two choices when preparing drawings of symmetrical features.
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[li]Ignore the symmetry. Attach your datums to one side of the part. Your problem does away. Be careful preparing your drawings though. The error conditions are not totally obvious.[/li]
[li]Attach the datum to the symmetric feature, as shown in ASME Y14.5M-1994, Figure_5-4. If you do not specify the datum at MMC, your fabrication and inspection fixtures become complicated, because they have to account for the varying width of the symmetric feature. If you can specify the datum at MMC, fixturing is simple. Again, prepare your drawings carefully. [/li]
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A symmetric datum is a feature of size. I try to avoid using features of size as datums, unless they are much more accurately toleranced than the features to be controlled.
A fixture that locates to a sloppy feature of size, regardless of feature size (RFS) has to be adjustable. It has to grip on and centre the feature. Such a fixture is not simple. Is this your problem?
Section 4 of ASME Y14.5M-1994 explains datums very clearly, and in extreme detail. It will tell you how to interpret any weird drawings you have been sent.
JHG