Salor55.
The sequence only has to be verified once. Usually after you do this, the wiring is not disturbed, so you can be confident that for future times all will be well. We have many machines, with Synchronous motors, that we run up to synchronous speed and then actively synchronize with the Line. to do this we only use one PT from the generator and another from the line. sadly one PT is not enough to determine sequence but it is ok for phase allignment.
What we do is at the time of construction and initial Commissioning is to do what we call a DOL Bump. Where we Do a short pulse of 3 phase power on the motor and it trys to start using it's amortoser winding. This is a positive indication of which way the motor will go when powered by the electricity mains. all we need to do then when we do our "Soft Start" is to make sure we spin the motor in the same direction.
In your situation, with a standby generator, I would pick a three phase motor that is driven by the power system and goes in a known direction. I would then disconnect your local grid from the incoming line and then power it up with the standby generator. Start this known motor and verify that it is going the correct direction. This may or may not be easy for your system but it is the only way i know to be ABSOLUTELY SURE.
WE have been through the exercise of checking generator diagrams and verifying pt connections and similar exercises, however you do not really know until you do something like I suggested. This only has to be done once unless the generator connections or your local grid wiring is disturbed somehow.
Tom Grayson