My guess is they want to provide 1:3 parking for permanent seating, and then add onto that sum at a 1:1 for the additional temporary seats. Perhaps the idea is that temporary seating won't be that significant a number with respect to the permanent seating.
What the logic behind that is I'm not sure. In my opinion that seems pretty high for the temporary seats, and the town may end up with a very large empty parking lot most of the time. For example in my area (Dallas/Ft Worth) stadium seating for events like HS football games is around 1:5 parking space per event seat.
I've had luck getting variances to parking requirements with City planning/zoning departments by just discussing it with them. A good resource is to compare with similar jurisdictions in the area and see what their requirements are.
If the property shares parking with adjacent uses, like retail or commercial, you might be able to convince them that the uses will not coincide. (For example a bank use would be 9-5, and an assembly use likely in the evening)
A ballroom/dance hall might be a very unique situation as well. I can imagine a building with very few permanent seats but with great capacity for temporary seats. Perhaps a parking requirement based on square footage of the building. For example restaurant 1 space/100 sq ft, retail 1 space/200 sq ft, or office space 1/300 sq ft, etc. A similar use might be a church, see what the town's parking requirement is for that.
Perhaps taking the building occupancy rating and coming up with some reasonable ratio to parking.