Thank you, Deeko! I will borrow a copy of Shigley's book. The joint in my case has neither stiff plates nor closely spaced bolts. In the interface there is a pad, whose thermal resistance is very dependent at low pressures, that fills the bow air gap, flatness deviations, and micro roughness. Although the contact pressure between bolts is negligible compared to the pressure under the bolt head, it is still important to know what the value is. Pressure film gives some idea. Is FEA of a bolted joint (with or without an interface material) to solve for the pressure distribution (and get thermal resistance or conductance) as complicated as I suspect?