I have run sets in parallel both on land and sea.
When dropping out one of a paralleled set of generators, it is impossible to run one generator at a lower frequency than the others.
It is common to drop the load from a set before opening the breaker to minimize system upsets.
Yes, you use the frequency control, but the frequency does not change directly.
As the frequency is set lower on one set, the set sheds load in accordance with the droop characteristics.
This puts more load on the remaining sets and they drop their frequencies slightly in accordance with the droop characteristics.
Example: Three 1000 KW sets running in parallel, each with 667KW load for a total load of 2000 KW.
Droop is 3%
One set is to be taken off line and the load is reduced to almost zero.
The load on the remaining sets will increase to almost 1000 KW each.
The load on the loaded sets will be increased by 33%, and the frequency of all three sets will drop by 1%, or .5 Hz or .6 Hz.
Good practice is to never go below zero load. In practice 10% load is a good limit.
Dropping off line at 10% load will cause little system upset.
Under-frequency at a substation:
When the breakers are closed, the frequency will be the same on all lines and on the bus.
As long as the incoming breaker remains closed, the frequency will remain the same on both sides of the breaker.
Load may be shed by opening one of more out-going breakers.
What you must consider is the condition when the incoming breaker is opened.
If the PT is on the bus, then you will have no indication of the incoming line frequency when the incoming breaker is open.
If the PT is on the incoming line, then you will have no indication of the bus frequency when the incoming breaker is open,
BUT, with the incoming breaker open, the bus frequency will be zero.
With two incomers: You may want to compare frequency and phase relationships before closing the second incoming breaker.
Again, You may want to see the frequency ahead of the incoming breakers before closing the last incoming breaker.
Or, put the PT on the bus and hope that both incomers are at the same frequency before closing the last incoming breaker.
Your choice.
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Ohm's law
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