I have started looking into a Mosfet solution already after looking at solid state relays,etc... That might be the only option.
As for the multiple relay breaks... This final product that incorporates this interlock scheme needs to go through UL safety testing.. But I believe this type of operation would also require additional testing focused on the relays and standards that relays are required to be compliant with. That is NOT a road we want to travel. While I'm sure it's done, I don't believe it's something that UL will just okay.
Right now I've convinced them for the prototypes that a standard push pull breaker be used in place of the switch. The tech would still have to pull the handle to disconnect the load but the door would operate the breaker to the ON position when the door is closed to prevent him from leaving with the load still disconnected and having to return. Good thing is those breakers fit into my $5 solution.