swelm, create a simpler model. For example create a single beam and put a uniform load or point load on it. Disable shear deformations, give it a simple support on one end and a roller on the other and you should be able to duplicate the answer. Enable shear def and the shear and moment should be the same, but the deflection should change slightly.
If that works, then try one a step above that, like create a single bay with 4 corners, with beams around the perimeter and one down the middle, all simple supports. Make it a lot longer in the beam direction than the girder direction (like 10x) to minimize 2-way shell bending. Now check the middle beam. You should still get pretty close. Keep in mind that the load will be as if the shells are continuous over the middle beam, so the middle beam gets 1.25 its normal trib width load. The edge beams will get 0.375 instead of 0.5.
Work your way up to your real bldg in 2-3 models.
You can't expect to exactly duplicate ETABS results for a complex model, but you should still be able to get fairly close for a framed structure.
As an aside, some of the reply posts in this thread really scare me, seeming to indicating willingness to just accept the fact that it's FEA so can't be verified, but still use those mystery results in design!? Perhaps I'm reading them wrong.