for static components such as heat exchangers, it involves constructiung a series of curves of DP ( pressure loss ) vs. W (flow).
Ultimately, you want to have a single system cure of DP vs W for the parrallel HX's, and teh intersection of this system head curve with the pump curves will yield the balanced system flow and DP.
For each HX and its associated pipes and valves, assume 3 different flows and calculate the corresponding 3 different pressure drops for each of the 2 HX's. Draw these 2 curves of Dp vs W.
Now, add these 2 curves together as follows: for 3 different pressure drops, find the flow across the 2 Hx's, for example , for DPa, DPb, DPc, find :W1,a; W1,b; W1,c; W2,a ;W2,b; W2,c; where W1 is the flow acorss HX1.
The system W vs DP curve is found by the new curve drawn from the following 3 points :
DPa , (W1,a+W2,a)
DPb, (W1,b + W2,b)
DPc, (W1,c+W2,c).
This new curve is drawn and superimposed over the DP vs. W curve for the parrallel pump combination, and theintersection of these 2 curves is the "balance point". Of course,t ehre are certain pump curves that will not be stable , so that issue should be addressed first.