When you are a child, you don't know jack about anything. If an adult comes to your school and gives you a song and dance about the benefits of a valid profession, you'll more than likely believe them. Some people are born sales people and can make anything look great.
I know a man that was in medical school then determined he didn't want to be a doctor. He then went into engineering and remained there. Last time I talked with him, he believed he would have been happier being a painter. He was not a noob, is not dumb, flakey, etc. Yet he had trouble deciphering life and what he wanted from it.
I've had women ask me to speak before female students in their areas of influence. When they learned what I would tell them, I was quickly dropped as a speaker for STEM. That is not OK with me because the young girls need to understand what they are going to face in STEM.
Young boys need to understand it, too. The hours are long and the treatment of being a commodity is unpleasant. Engineers feel isolated from people, according to some I know, and would have felt more fulfilled had they pursued another profession that involved being around people more. But, they were sold on engineering because it's a good way to make money, if you are at least competent with math and science.
One of my friends wants me to discuss STEM with his students but, again, I cannot make it negative. I can discuss the problems I have experienced but those have to be positive because the goal is to convince them to pursue STEM. My presentation had to be approved, which is understandable. I am forthright about not lying to youngsters about the demands and politics in STEM careers because that will do nothing but a disservice to them. I will not encourage youngsters to pursue STEM simply because they are good at math and science. They need to decide how to apply their abilities and skills to something they are interested in not a career someone is selling them.
I plan to challenge them to think about what they want from life first. Then challenge them with what legacy, if any, they want to leave. Then challenge them to achieve it and not quit because, if you quit, you remove yourself from the solution. I want them to think about what they want to be doing in 10 years, 20 years, etc. and who they want to do it with? What kind of people do you want to work with, for, and serve? At 10AM Monday morning fifteen years from now, what do you want to be doing? Do you see multiple avenues of growth and progression over your life? Do you see doing the same job for 40 years? There are no wrong answers or embarrassing or shameful answers either. There are no sad answers. There are simply answers, very personal answers.
Life is full of choices. It is work to make those choices. I know people, intelligent people, that have lived a long time without that cognizance until I mentioned it to them. Their parents never taught them they had choices let alone how to make good choices. We're just supposed to figure it out, it seems. I think most people are raised thinking they are to move through life like a robot and let life happen to them and that aspects of life become fixed. I fell into that trap and I didn't realize what happened until I read Mindset by Carol Dweck, Ph.D. I also recommend to young people to learn about human dynamics to understand what is happening in their interpersonal relationships as well as their intrapersonal relationship.
As I listen to engineers, I hear complaints from quite a few about long hours, too few resources, hard to squeeze in vacation, too much work because of layoffs and people were never replaced, etc. I learned that I could run a marathon but I could not run one every day or even every week. Eventually, it catches up with you. Some vendors I've talked with are hearing more complaints than me and they recognize a lot of engineers are very unhappy in their jobs. If you are under great stress and you cannot get adequate down time, your body will ensure you get it.
I think our culture needs to change and the writer adequately captured that point.
Pamela K. Quillin, P.E.
Quillin Engineering, LLC