Silt density index is a measurement of the colloidal suspended matter in the water supply. Colloidal matter is not filterable by sand filter alone or cartridge filter or softener or carbon filter. Some coagulants can be effective in some cases, but not every, when used in conjunction with sand filter.
WWTP 2014 is on the right track, in my opinion, with his suspicions that hydrogen sulphide or bacteria or both could be the culprit. Hydrogen sulfide is very often colloidal and partially ionized. When hydrogen sulfide is present, it very likely to find Sulfate reducing bacteria also. Both can affect higher SDI readings.
Aeration will only remove hydrogen sulfide gas, but will not remove any colloidal or ionic sulfur which in turn bacteria feed on. Until you can substantially reduce the hydrogen sulfide and bacteria, you will continue to experience heavy loading on the filters and plugging of the membranes.
In some cases, the sulfur bacteria resides within the well casing and intake. This condition may require shock treatment with a strong disinfectant, typically recirculating for several hours. When the well is clean, you might consider using a strong dose of chlorine ahead of a carbon filter to remove hydrogen sulfide and control bacteria. However, there may need to be frequent replacement of the carbon media. There are other options.
If you're still having a problem, I would contact the membrane manufacturer and request their input regarding hydrogen sulfide reduction and sulfate-reducing bacteria control with respect to their membranes. The membrane manufacturer is the best suited professional to advise you on a course of action, in this particular case.
S. Bush