See the CNVTOL command for a description of convergence parameters and their use within ANSYS. See the SOLCONTROL command for defaults in non-linear analysis. The base rule of thumb is that if your analysis is displacement controlled (U), choose convergence on F and/or M. You can use both if you want to be strict, or you can just narrow down the tolerance on one to some small value. In my experience, the default ANSYS-chosen parameters are usually more than sufficient for general purpose jobs.