I follow and agree with most of what you're saying about the heavy duty truck exhaust systems, with a couple big exceptions:
First is, I've yet to see the engine mfr. that would allow 100" H2O backpressure, at least not prior to '07. Most insist it be no more than 65".
More importantly, though: why would you want to use 304 stainless pipes?
The stuff is expensive, discolors as you say, and if you weld anything to it you'll have intergranular corrosion issues. In order of increasing cost, the following materials are significantly cheaper and/or significantly better-performing than 304 in exhaust applications: 409, AL409, 439, 18Cr-Cb, AL439, etc.
And BTW: pipe bends aren't your big sources of backpressure; abrupt terminations are, like when a pipe changes size, or has a 'Y'-joint, or expands into or out of a muffler.
Finally, concerning mountings, why do you suppose it is that you rarely see any instances where the exhaust is effectively isolated from the chassis and the cab? Do HT people think the laws of vibrations don't apply to them?
It's simple enough to keep muffler mounting stanchions from breaking off; design them so they're not operating in resonance as you drive down the road!
As one who has worked extensively in exhaust system design in passenger car, light truck, and heavy truck, and both for vehicle manufacturers and suppliers, I think the reason heavy truck exhausts aren't treated as "systems" is two-fold: first, the sheer number of different configurations makes a "systems" approach a staggering task; and then, the muffler manufacturers are just that - muffler makers, not exhaust systems makers, and they have little concept of what constitutes a good exhaust system, as compared to one that is merely workable.
If that sounds like a harsh indictment, well, I intended it that way. It appears to me that in terms of overall product knowledge, muffler makers for heavy trucks today are approximately where light vehicle exhaust makers were perhaps 40 years ago - or maybe more.