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I have had managers who were so full of themselves that they couldn’t see a good idea if it bit them on the A$$. If they didn’t come up with an idea – then it obviously wasn’t any good. A few days later they might have an original thought or two (yours) and everything would change. These people are really hard to work for - period.
I’ve had managers played games all day. In one company the VP of Engineering and the Sr. Mechanical Engineer played tug of war with the two designers caught in the middle. Since the VP was the Sr.’s boss – we said “Yes Sir” to the Sr. but made sure the VP knew about it when we were told to do something not according to the plan. When the Sr. asked about it – of course the VP just happened to ask us about it and then gave new orders. That was also very frustrating – fortunately we were using AutoCAD and could run multiple sessions so that it looked like we were following both sets of orders.
The Sr. in this instance had a very strong Polish accent and it was difficult to understand exactly what he was saying. This was a very well educated man with a Dr. tacked onto his name. One of his favorite little jokes in life was to tell stories about his youth. As he did – he would slip further and further into his accent. By the end of his little story – I was always straining to understand what he was saying – but the ending always had a little dig in it that closely matched a situation that one of the listeners might be in. I remember a couple of those stories – and I remember asking one of the other listeners after he left – if he really said what I thought he said – did he just call you (or me) an idiot? Normally - they didn’t know either – but it was terribly “Funny” to him.
Fortunately – I have had more good managers than I have had clowns who were given positions that they were not qualified to fill. Most of them were not Engineers. Did I go to them when I had a problem? Of course I did. At times, I would let them know I had a problem and what I was going to do to solve it. At other times I needed their approval, for money or additional time, so I was very careful to phrase the problem in a way that they could understand.
The point that I am trying to make here is that a Good Engineering Manager is not necessarily an Engineer. A good manager is people oriented –
NOT – technically oriented. They know how to manage people and that is an art all by itself. A good manager does not brow beat you into doing your job – they are not bossy little dictators – they simply let you know that you are appreciated and valuable and they make you want to do your very
best !!! Those are qualities that are hard to find.
If this girl has those qualities – consider yourself lucky – and go back to work.
I just re-read your original post. You said:
<she is very appreciated for what she’s doing (she can’t do anything without asking our manager, I mean only designing) and she will be my manager in couple months.>
This sounds a lot like envy to me. Please consider this. A good manager can also spot competence – he has probably recognized that you know what your doing and he trusts you to do your job. At the same time – he might realize that she has potential but is unsure of herself and lacks confidence. If so – then he has probably made it very plain to her that he wants to know what she is doing before she does it and gives her a little praise when her judgment is sound. That sounds like an awfully good manager to me. It is a lot easier to do that then to allow her to do something stupid and then have to knock the crunches out from under her – possibly loosing that potential forever.
Lee
The best leaders inspire by example. When that is not an option, brute force and intimidation works pretty well, too.