It does not matter how big the bolt head is or how well it mates to the cylinder end, the only effective area pushing the Shank (Rod) is the Shank (Rod)diameter.
To prove it to yourself and your coworker take a 1 1/2" diameter cylinder with a 5/8" rod diameter and remove the piston seals so fluid (Oil or Air)can get past the piston. Set the cylinder on its Cap End (Vertical Rod up)and pressurize the Cap End Port with a regulated supply of 80 PSI. Now start stacking weight on the extended rod and see how much it takes to push the rod back into the cylinder with the 80 PSI pushing against the whole inside area. Note: You will have to plug the rod end port for this experiment to trap air in the cylinder.
Since the only effective area pushing out is .625 X .625 X .7854= .306 Sq. In. the rod will start retracting when the weight reaches .306 Sq. In X 80 PSI= or about 25#. Now try the same experiment with the piston seals in place and the rod end port open. The effective area is now 1.767 Sq. In. and it will take over 141# to push the rod back.
No matter how well or how poorly the piston fits agaist the cylinder head it is the cylinder head that is stopping its pressure times area not the external load. As long as the head is held on with more force than the piston area is pushing with it will stop as soon as it contacts the head and will be pushed back when force on the rod is greater than pressure times area on the rod surface.
Another way to prove the point consider a bolt with shank that is light press fitted into the head. When the bolt head contacts the cylinder head it would stop and if pressure continued to build it would finally be high enough to slide the shank out out of the head without any movement of the head which is held stationary.
Bud Trinkel CFPE
HYDRA-PNEU CONSULTING, INC.
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