good separation on the frequencies.
Does autotrack require the antenna beam and sidelobes to be tightly controlled? Sidelobes typically come up with a dichroic reflector and closely spaced reflecting elements help minimize the degradation for the high band, though it can hurt for the lower band. At the low bands, the surface looks like a capacitor or lens and the energy propagating through it gets delayed.
A reflecting surface for X band will change it's polarization. i.e. if you want RHCP, you have to use LHCP on your feed horn to bounce RF energy off this reflecting surface.
software is $50K with a long and painful learning curve, it'll be cheaper to hire someone (hmmn, we do that this stuff coincidentally, it'll cost less than the software). Ansoft HFSS and CST Microwave Studio are the two main ones.
If you want to experiment in the lab making your own, get some quarters (25 cents) and array them in X and Y, it's a low pass filter that'll reflect your X band. We did this to validate codes for frequency selective surface software, it was cheap and quick. It works pretty well and since they're round, it's good for circular polarization. A quarter is 0.78 Lambda at 8 ghz and should work ok for you. Space them around 1.2 inch centers.
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