Consider increasing the grounding resistance value rather than "breaking" the transformer. An option may be to switch in more resistance in the event of a fault so as to limit the current and subsequent damage.
There are a few little details that may have a bearing on your situation.
1> Is the generator wye point grounded, the transformer wye point grounded or both?
2> Is the generator wye point connected to the transformer wye point?
3> In the event of a fault initiated disconnect, will you open the co-gen side of the transformer or the utility side of the transformer?
Fault current is limited by the impedance of the fault circuit.
In a solidly grounded generator, a bolted fault current is limited by the reactances (X, X', and X") of the generator winding and the point on the winding where the fault occurs.
A fault on A phase of a wye connected transformer will be fed by A phase of the generator. However if there is a four wire (Neutral connected) to a wye/delta transformer the transformer will also contribute to the fault.
When looking at a single phase load or fault on the secondary of a four wire wye/delta connection I find it helps to consider the transformer bank as a single phase transformer in parallel with an open delta bank.
An open delta fed from a stiff network will form a virtual transformer on the open side. The virtual transformer will be equivalent to the missing transformer.
So, a generator single phase fault with a four wire wye/delta transformer connection will be fed by the faulted phase, limited by the effective phase reactance and by a back feed from the healthy phases limited by the effective reactances of the healthy phases and the impedance of the transformer windings.
If twice the transformer rated impedance is low in comparison to the generator effective reactances the bolted fault current may approach 200% of the simple single phase calculations.
BUT you are using a grounding resistor. The grounding resistor will limit the fault current.
The back feed will not increase the fault current. The back feed will have the effect of reducing the current in the faulted winding by the amount of the back feed contribution.
Bill
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