OMG - I don't know where to start except thank you all! You can stop waving all those red flags now. I see them! I see them! I think I am letting a slightly desperate, but not unmanageable situation cloud my judgement.
So in the interest of providing ALL the details jmw, I'll try to give enough background without going over board.
I've been out of the office for trial preparation. I'm the declared expert witness in a case that is going to trial because my boss is going to be out of the country. This will be my first experience testifying in court and it's been a lot of pressure (work stress)!
The attorneys didn't think I fit the part, no pot belly and not enough grey hair. I guess they thought I would be a pushover for the opposing side, but I passed the 'doesn't-crack-under-pressure-knows-her-sh!t-test.' What's funny is I got the grill test on the same day I threatened to run over my landlord with my car if he did not stop coming into my apartment without proper notice (and once without knocking while I was still in bed).
I turned my landlord in to the local building department a couple of weeks ago for redoing all the gas piping and plumbing without a permit and for violating several relevant codes.
The building department came down on him pretty hard for a lot more stuff than what I told them and pasted a cease and desist/stop work order on the door. So the relationship I have with my him is a bit strained, to say the least. Hence the pressure to move out.
My girlfriend, I'll call her Habibi, who was ready to bail out, decided to apply for the LSAT and will be going to law school in San Francisco in fall. She looked at her own situation and decided she would rather live with me than get an apartment in the City and give up her car. So she is back in, but she would still like to look at 3-bedroom houses and get a 3rd person. And she doesn't want to move until July, after the LSAT. Makes things a bit more difficult for me, but I'll survive. So right now, arunmrao, I'm staying in the same place at least through May and June, difficult as that may be.
Habibi and I decided the 23 year old CADguy would not work, not so much for the MILF factor, but more for the 'picking his toenails on the kitchen table' stuff. He already has occasional farting contests in the office with his office partner who is 56 and should know better. Oh, and for those who (MOM) still (I"D) don't (LIKE to) know (F_) what MILF is, here's a link:
If it's blocked by your system, go rent the movie American Pie and pay close attention to the scenes with Stifler's Mom. You might get the idea.
And yes GregLocock, roommates are for kids, but it is a lifestyle that is very prevalent in this area due to the extreme cost of housing. It's a phenomenon that I don't think is common in many places outside the SF bay area. Median price for an average home, 900 to 1,100 sf in Marin County just hit $965,000. And we are not talking pristine homes. These places, many of which were built in the '70's by pot-smoking hippies need work, and usually a lot of it. I know because the firm where I work also does renovation design for homes 3 million and up. Average cost of renovation is $500,000 just to cover basic deferred maintenance.
The increasing cost of housing keeps outstripping income, so it just gets further and further away. My only chance at it is to really save in rent, work a couple of jobs and try to save enough to buy in at the bottom.
jmw, I can't think of a belly dancing angle, except that my girlfriend is also a belly dancer and I'm sure the prospect of the occasional rehearsal with several more belly dancers at the house was of some interest to CADguy, but he and his toenails are out. I just told him that my girlfriend wasn't comfortable with living with a young guy that she might find attractive. OK, a TOTAL lie, but her real response was a little harsh and I didn't want to hurt his already fragile self esteem. It's that Mother-thing coming out again.
"If you are going to walk on thin ice, you might as well dance!"
