"unless the axial force in the struct approaces zero, or it is negaligible small (need criteria), won't the struct continue to lengthen?"
?? the strut stretches under the stress of the load. in more typical structures, we can get away with saying the impact of displacements on the loadpaths in the structure is small ("samll displacement theory"). this structure isn't, as the effect of displacements, even after the snap-thru is quite significant. the original geometry snapped-thru (apex 1.64' below ends) gives the loads you've calc'd. but these loads cause the legs to strain, extend which increases the vertical companent of the strut load calc'd ... therefore force balance requires that the strut load falls. you're right, i did it by iteration, if i was smarter, i'd be able to do it with algerbra.