This is a very interesting issue. The model give some differences with prototype.
Your question is not very clear, so my questions are going to be some general ones:
I have some question about the match of the boundaries conditions including loads.
The supports, area of supports or border conditions, Are they accuracy enough?. It is seem if you over look the same, but if you compare the relations of the contacts areas, the location of rotation point on the support area of model and prototype, are the same?.
Something just like this could be told of the load application point.
To void this kind of problmes i normally model part of the support before reach the infinite stiffness support. I did the same with the point of load application just to have the same concentration load.
This one is a silly question but, did you test on elastic behavior of the material for model and prototype?
Besides that what ther hand what kind of 8 element did you use?, there is a lot of them, could you be more specific.