Parimaldesai,
Granted you see the 3% and 10% rules associated with ASME equipment but these rules are also related to the type of relief device that is used.
Without knowing what you mean by a non-ASME relief device, it is impossible to offer any advice about the inlet and outlet line loss requirements for that device. You will get better response if you identify the type or make and model of the device.
Regarding spring loaded type relief devices used on ASME pressure vessels, the basic reason for the 3% inlet pressure loss rule is so that under flowing conditions, the pressure at the relief valve does not fall below the blowdown pressure and cause the valve to reseat. The 10% outlet loss rule is so that under flowing conditions, the builtup backpressure at the relief valve does not exceed the allowable overpressure for the valve and cause the valve to reseat.
In general, I can't say that I've seen anything like the 3% inlet/blowdown rule to apply to relief devices other than the spring loaded type used on pressure vessels. However, for other type relief devices it will likely be necessary to fully account for the inlet line loss when determining the capacity of your relief device.
As for the 10% outlet/builtup backpressure rule, I think the general intent applies to all relief devices that are not of the balanced or pilot operated type. In other words, your builtup backpressure must always be less than the amount of overpressure used to size the device.
With the low set pressure and MAWP that you have indicated, vapor relief will not be sonic through the relief device if venting to atmosphere and you will need to fully account for backpressure at the relief device when evaluating its capacity for either vapor or liquid relief.
As additional comment, not knowing what you mean by a non-ASME vessel, it is not clear that you would be allowed to set the relief device at the MAWP of the vessel. You may need to have the set pressure of the relief device such that it can meet the required relief rate without exceeding the vessel MAWP. In other words, you may be required to have the relief valve set pressure lower than the MAWP.