By ckecking the displacements of the nodes of the cohesive elements ???
Technically the cohesive elements do not separate, they just deform according to a traction-displacement law (a.k.a. traction-separation law, a.k.a cohesive law).
In general, the separation of the cohesive elements is a continuous process, and it is implemented through a reduction of their stiffness, mimicking damage and failure.