To me, the fundamental problem is jealousy. It is one of the ugliest and most destructive emotions of mankind. Jealousy drives people to all sorts of evil.
After reading Carol Dweck's book, Mindset, and George Simon's book, Character Disturbance, I understand better what's happened in my own life. As I read those books, pieces of understanding fell into place changing the way I think about people and myself forever. The veil of ignorance has been removed about disturbed characters, their influence on the human mind, and what is truly neurotic.
A fellow engineer, male, called me The Token or The Girl often for years. I thought I was strong. I wasn't. Those words still ring in my mind today. I have walked each step of my life and mostly alone. And I am not a token. I am an engineer and I have worked hard as an engineer to make life better for others. That is what matters.
Pamela K. Quillin, P.E.
Quillin Engineering, LLC