My best answer based on what you provided so far, "it depends".
First, take a look at this for a basic understanding, Bill (along with others) has done an excellent job in the referenced thread but this article has been helpful for me in explaining the issue for a number of years,
From your original post,
The factor to determine SKVA for (I) DOL (ii) Star Delta (iii) VSD (iv) Soft Starter Again, it depends on several things, on type of motor, what kind of load is being driven by the motor, and on the VSD and Softstarter, how they were setup. Here is a very good resource I have used,
And this from ABB you may also find helpful,
Secondly, by how much percent overload can a standby generator sustained for a few seconds. Again it depends. Two primary factors, the prime mover and the generator. On the prime mover (engine) is it turbocharged or natural aspirated, does its power rating include by design any overload capability, what kind of regulatory constraints (like exhaust emissions) are present. On the generator end, differing designs may have different SkVA rating for a design nominal kVA or ekW rating. What kind of excitation system, SE, PMG or aux winding like AREP? Pretty much now days when you buy a standby set at a given rating, that is what you get. Two major factors have driven that in my experience, cost and emissions regulations. The cost thing is easy, it is a tough market with tight margins, so none of the manufacturers want to give anything away for free. And regulatory agencies pretty much demand that the nameplate rating is what the engine produces, no extra.
Thirdly, I noticed that standby generator in their technical datasheet, it mentioned the motor start up capability say for 100 KVA Generator, it state 250 KVA. What does this mean. It means the generator set you are looking at has a rated starting kVA based on a given set of conditions.
Finally, can someone share a real application sizing for a building or any other application. Start here,
A google search of the web on this issue gets you a lot of info. Generator set sizing can be easy or tough, lots of factors to consider to do it right, lot of systems out there that have mis-sized systems because someone wanted to do it easy.
Manufacturer provided sizing systems are a good start, but you need to be aware of a couple of things. The manufacturers are in the business of selling, more kW means more money. The other issue is risk. Current sizing programs take a lot of factors into consideration, but can't cover them all, so most programs add a buffer to try and cover their rear ends.
Hope that helps, MikeL.