IJR,
I just got done going over both Chandrupatla/Belegundu and Cook, and neither really has examples along the lines of real application details. I have yet to find a book that does a very good job of these things. Perhaps one day I'll write one and make a lot of money . . .
So, lacking a good source, let me spout a bit (now that I better understand your issues).
I'll talk about solid elements by first discussing 'structural' elements (beams and shells). Beams are appropriate in the context of beam theory, and shells in the context of shell theory. However, many structures satisfy neither beam theory nor shell theory. In these cases, the solid elements are often most suited.
Solid elements are basically the most 'general purpose' of any of the elements. If one could model something with beam elements or shell elements, then one could almost surely model it with solid elements. The reverse, however, often does not hold true.
In your case of the stadium, there are probably many features which do not readily lend themselves to either of the specific theories, which is why you are asking the question.
I am actually a big fan of solid elements. With a good pre-processor, just about anything can be meshed with solids. However, there are some things to be wary of:
1) 1st order solid elements do not behave well in bending. Fully-integrated 1st order solids have overly-stiff behavior (known as 'shear locking'). One must be wary of this behavior. Many codes have addressed this problem with element formulations. Just be aware of this (please look around on the FEA strings for prior discussions on this--I have posted on this subject before).
1b) 1st order reduced-integration elements actually shear too much (called 'hourglassing'), so this can be a problem. Again, look around on this site for some other postings about this.
2) Solid elements do not react moments at their nodes, so any moments must be addressed either via force-couples or by attaching structural elements or constraints which then 'smear' the moment into multiple nodes of the solid elements.
3) One should try to avoid having only one element through the thickness. I in fact try to have at least 4 elements of thickness through any features (a general rule of thumb). Any less than this can have difficulty accurately describing the deformation pattern (resulting in errant results).
Hopefully this is along the lines of what you are looking for. Fire off any more questions you may have.
Regards,
Brad