Coefficients of friction can only be measured, not calculated.
If you have both surfaces then it is a simple process, otherwise you need a table of someone elses measurements.
There seems to be a great deal of information and interest in torques for bolts. There are a number of threads already which talk around this problem.
I assume you want to know the correct torque to use on a bolt to give the required compressive force? If you put a washer below the bolt then you have achieved a very standard arrangement. This could help you get accurate data.
This information is bound to be readily available - my first stop would be the bolt suppliers themselves.